Infertility is a bitch.
Unexplained Infertility is even more of a bitch.
You go through dozens of blood tests and analysis and then the so called fertility “experts” put you in the box marked UNEXPLAINED. Go Figure.
Most people go through the first part of their life (read: teens) trying to avoid a possible pregnancy – I know I sure did! If I had a dollar for every time I stressed out that I hadn’t taken my contraception properly I would literally be a millionaire!
Fast forward a few years and here I am, married and trying my hardest to “get a baby in me” as my loving husband refers to it.
After 6 months of trying, our GP ordered a blood test for me to see if I was actually ovulating (I was) and a semen analysis for my husband (it came back normal). We also took matters into our own hands by seeing a naturopath, this particular guy, Brad Crouch, was world renowned for fertility. He is a iridologist and looks into your iris’ and the prescribes you herbs and supplements according to what he sees or what you might be lacking. (Check out my blog post “The Natural Route” for more on Brad and how we went)
After another 6 months the GP referred us to a fertility clinic, Fertility Plus. We were told we would have to wait up to 6 months for an appointment but only 2 months later we got a letter with a date. They got me to do a whole new lot of bloods and another semen analysis for my husband. Again, everything came back normal except for my AMH levels. Mine are very low which means that for my age, I don’t have many eggs left in me.
Side Note: If you are currently single or not quite ready to have a child I would strongly recommend you get this blood test done. It will help you come up with a plan for your future child bearing plans.
After dealing with the realisation that I have a low egg reserve my husband and I started to talk about our options. We don’t qualify for public funding as there is no reason for our infertility, we haven’t been trying for 5 years and we aren’t over 30 (yet). I think this pissed me off more than anything else that we were about our results. The fact that the government wont help us because we are young and in their eyes, basically, aren’t trying enough.
After a bucket load of tears, my husband and I sat down to have a “serious” discussion. I needed to voice my fears; I was absolutely terrified my husband was going to leave me (we weren’t married at this point). He is a smart man and he told me all the things I needed to hear – we were going to get through this just like everything else we dealt with, together. I felt like a complete failure as a woman, even though there was, technically, nothing wrong with me!
After we had processed everything we were about 4 months out from our wedding so we decided to carry on seeing Brad and would re-evaluate our situation after the wedding.
